Throughout the year, and typically always around holiday seasons, your inbox (like ours) fills up with true and utter junk. However, recently I had a conversation with a client who did not know it was possible to check the origins of any given email before opening it up.

So this post is intended to help anyone unfamiliar with safeguarding their privacy and their computer. I want to be sure that anyone receiving any email from any source (whether you think you know them or not) knows how to check that email before opening it.

We have a current situation that makes this post even more important… a few of our own emails from several of our own domains are currently circulating the net AS IF we were emailing people. We’re not of course. The only time you’d hear from us would be via either Getresponse or Aweber – both double opt in email programs.

However, of late, we’re getting the following notorious-type emails – each appearing as if we are stupid enough to mail something from us to ourselves. We then thought a, “Let’s cover some basics” post was in order.

Many times we get suspicious looking emails. If you’re running a great anti-virus detection program (our preference is Kaspersky), it catches a lot of spam and suspicious emails.

But what about those emails that don’t trigger alerts, the ones that look like they are coming from someone you know. Only when you open it up do you get a clue that hey this might not be from who you thought it was. It’s either crass material, a link to a questionable website, or is filled with gibberish.

Has your friend or business associate suddenly gone mad?

The answer most likely is no. And there is a way to tell:

1. First, highlight (one click) but do NOT open the email

2. If you are using Outlook Express choose Properties, then Details and look in the box labeled Internet headers for the underlying code of the message that isp servers read.

a. The ReturnPath may give you a clue as to who really sent this

b. If X-Original-To and Delivered-To are the same, the chances are very good that this is not from the person you thought was emailing you. The odds of it being legitimate would be minuscule.

3. If you use Outlook, choose Options – look in the box labeled Internet Headers

a. Deeper into the code, [SPF failed… is a sure sign someone has hijacked the email address and is using it without permission and/or the owner’s knowledge.

b. Here’s a little something I found upon close investigation down near the bottom of this Internet Header: “Delivered to trusted network by a host with no rDNS” – another tip off. The domain (in this case one of ours) is legitimate, but the mailing itself originated from a “no rDNS.” A sure indication it’s not from who you think it’s from…

Both #2 and #3 will show you much more information, much of it meaningless to the average internet user, but close observation should be enough to decide whether #6 (below) is in order without opening and reading it.

4. Any email you receive that is using YOUR own domain name, where the From and To are the same address, means that your email account has been hijacked by some idiot. They collect these email addresses from forms on your site or exposed email addresses you kindly provide as clickable links to your visitors. (We get some really weird ones… Sigh).

Chances are you’ll never be able to trace them, but you should report these to your domain hosting support team since they involve your own website domain. Let them know someone is using your email address for spam purposes. Better safe than sorry. When you report it, make it clear this is not you doing it but someone else using your domain. Don’t overlook this step, it could mean the difference between them allowing you to continue hosting or them closing your access (sometimes without notice).

5. Along with a bit of private eye work of your own, we also feel the need to state the obvious; never click on a link in a suspect email. We even go so far as to highly advocate that if you really want to know what the url is (if you’ve chosen to open the email), then copy and paste said url into our browser versus clicking out from the email itself.

6. When in doubt, it’s just better and safer to delete the suspect email regardless.

If you’re thinking of protecting your website’s precious email information, numerous scripts have been invented to try to thwart these criminals, however, very little time passes before these same criminals find a way around them. A good suggestion would be to eliminate the email altogether. Create an image with your email address embedded as a picture and do not make it click-able.

For those using forms, etc., unfortunately you might have to just bite the bullet and keep a close eye on your accounts. The only way to know is when you receive one of this infamous emails from yourself to yourself.

For those just receiving email, do use the steps above if anything looks suspect.

For those with the same troubles above AND you are the domain owner being abused, be sure to follow all the steps, too, and report the issue immediately.

We cannot stress the importance of not believing or opening every piece of mail that comes your way. This past year alone, we know of at least four individuals whose identity was stolen because they really believed the email they received was legitimate.

Here’s to a safe and Happy Holiday season, and awareness as we start a brand New Year.

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This past week or so has been very interesting. There are several “new” things out there all being promoted like crazy. Funny how some are very successful (for the affiliate owner) while others just languish into nonexistence.

However, this is not a post of praise. Sure there ARE many fine, young and old, upstanding affiliate program owners out there who really give a damn if their affiliates are successful. You can tell these individuals from the crap (sorry but it’s true!) because they are fully involved in ensuring your success. They offer lots of tools upfront for advertising and marketing, and keep things fresh and current for newly arriving individuals.

What burns my butt is (more…)

Today, while reading my horoscope in a really oddball local magazine, I was struck by how much this particular one makes sense. Here’s what it said:

“The composer Stravinsky had written a new piece with a difficult violin passage,” writes Thomas Powers, quoted in the book Sunbeams. “After it had been in rehearsal several weeks, the solo violinist came to Stravinsky and said he was sorry, he had tried his best, the passage was too difficult, no violinist could play it. Stravinsky said, ‘I understand that. What I am after is the sound of someone trying to play it!’”

It goes on to inform me to keep this message close to the heart in the coming week in order to have “the proper perspective as you go about the work of doing the best you can, at a task that is virtually impossible to perfect.”

Now doesn’t that sound exactly like internet marketing?!

We each do our very best with the methodology at hand, but never do any of us truly “perfect the art” because the art of being online is so fluid.

However, it’s not in the getting it perfect where we succeed, it is in the trying and applying where we shine.

We’ve known our share of online entrepreneurs who take a direct course of action and willingly try their hand at all new proposals (or revisit “old” ones to fine tune them). Conversely, we’re also familiar with some would-be online business people who seem too shy to get out there and give it a go.

Maybe what holds some back is that feeling of “I won’t get it right.” There is no getting it wrong (other than blatant spamming of course). The beauty is in the doing!

Keep this message in mind as you go about your week (each week!) and put yourself out there! Meet other people in the social communities, write that article you’ve been putting off and post it in Hubpages and article directories! You can do it!

Here’s to sweet music to you in all your endeavors!

It’s late, but I don’t want you to think that’s what has me slightly grumpy, it’s not. What got me was a short piece written in the Webpronews.

Writer David Utter, in his featured article Beware Social Networking Ad Buzz does another one of his quick looks (without much fact) and provides a sweeping opinion (without declaring it is opinion) on whether or not social media sites like Facebook and Myspace are really designed to help online businesses grow. He (continues) to insist that these sites are filled with college-types not much interested in anything business related. This isn’t the first time I’ve seen him say this very same thing… and it drives me nuts. Every time I read his absolute-sounding statements I wonder what he’s basing these statements on? Statistical fact or personal opinion? Because statistically he’s wrong.

I’m not about to disclose my age but suffice to say college has been several years in my past, yet I frequent social media hot spots and I’m aware of numerous individuals my age and older doing the same.

Social media communities are filled with all kinds of people, of all ages. A trip around any of them, checking profiles and seeing who’s who, can show you that much. Facebook even provides demographics for heavens sake…!

After reading his article, it became apparent to me that the person most “in the know” was the first commenter to his article, Lyn Mettler. Lyn wrote:

“I personally think that the way to go online is not to pay to have a presence but to actively get involved, such as by setting up a page for your business on MySpace or Facebook and using that as a tool to reach out to your target audience.

I’ve never been convinced that paid advertising online fares much better than paid advertising in traditional media. It’s much better (more credible and authentic) to get a story about your business published in the newspaper than to pay for an ad, and similarly it’s better to have a page on MySpace than to pay for placement there (excluding pay per click).

One other point, these social networks are definitely not just for the 20-something, college-age crowd. All age groups are getting on in huge numbers. A couple stats I found:

More than 50 percent of all MySpace users are now over the age of 35, according to comScore Media Metrix.

Between May 2006 and May 2007 the number of unique users on Facebook over the age of 35 grew 98% to 10,412. — comScore Media Metrix”

Hats off to Lyn for stating so clearly the reason for any internet marketer to venture into the social media arena. “To actively get involved” is the key phrase there. Clearly social websites are not the place to go barging in and spamming the living daylights out of all and sundry. Common sense, a sense of community and fair play, and above all an understanding of these communities can and will take any online entrepreneur far.

Seems like David needs a wake up call – and a research partner. Give it a rest David

(I did weigh in, couldn’t leave Lyn just hanging there alone lol)